Does height matter?

It just gets awkward when the dude is too short

Of course we're all supposed to be nonjudgmental people and not evaluate others on looks and superficial shit like that.  But let's be honest, it ALWAYS plays a part.  Its not everything, but looks and general physical characteristics matter.  Don't get me wrong, I've met ho-hum looking guys who's attractiveness went up when matched with their great personality.  And on the flip side, I've met gorgeous guys who became less attractive when their cocky dickheadedness was revealed.

Someone sure loves himself

I think everyone has their physical deal breakers that they can't get past or that they tend to get hung up on about another person.  For example I have issues with people with bad teeth.  It really grosses me out when someone has funky teeth - particularly black teeth.  Crooked teeth are also a turn off but its the black teeth that skeeze me out.  I'm also generally anti-back hair; unless the guy keeps that shit in check.  That is NOT an area to let run free.  One must always always manscape the back.

                                    

Other people won't date gingers, bald dudes or people of particular ethnicities.  I'd say my one absolute deal breaker for a physical trait is height.  I just can't date a short dude.  I've done it once before.  He was about 5'5" and I'm 5'10", but he was also insanely hot.  It was still awkward though.  It's not so much about the guy as it it about me.  I'm self-conscious about my height and towering over people.  Girls are supposed to be little and cute and have the ability to be tossed around like a bag of chips.  You can't do that at 5'10".  Plus I like the feeling that if needed, the guy could protect and defend me.  If he's smaller than me, I don't get that feeling.  I know its an archaic mentality but it's just how I feel.  Plus I want to be able to wear heels and not tower over the guy.

So when going through guys' online profiles, I will dismiss them based on height alone.  They could be the nicest guy in the world, super good looking, have an adorable puppy, but if he's under 5'10" it's an automatic nope.  In reality I'd prefer 6' or over.  Does this exclude a large number of men for me? Yup.  Could I be missing out on some great guys.  Highly likely.  But I just can't do it.  It bothers me too much when the dude is shorter than me.  Any other tall women out there who feel the same way?

From the movie "Up For Love" - a french film about a tall woman dating a short man.  I highly recommend it!!

Casper the Unfriendly Ghost

Apparently in this day and age, many adult men have reverted back to school age behavior when it comes to dating.  I'm not talking about pass a note where you have to check yes or no, or even going so far back as to push you on the playground and runaway when they're interested in you.  I'm talking about not being man enough to handle how to properly end a relationship even in the early stages in a proper manner.  Instead they act like high schools boys and play games with your emotions.




The one I've gotten probably the most these days is "ghosting."  This is when the guy takes the very mature route and let's you know they're not longer interested in a relationship with you of any kind by simply disavowing your very existence.  It can come without warning too.  Things can be going along just fine, when all of a sudden you're waiting for days to get a response to your text.  You send another.  Try Facebook messenger.  Call and get voicemail.  In return you get ...... crickets.  Nothing.  Zilch.  The man has become a ghost.  You have been ghosted.

Apparently he thinks you'd like to just go through the agony of figuring it out on your own -however long it takes you to put together- that he doesn't want to see you anymore and won't ever talk to you again.
 

 

The other fun game some will play is the fine art of "breadcrumbing".  This is when the guy will keep talking to you however there will be longs gaps in between conversations.  He is giving you just enough attention to make you think he's still interested while making no further commitment.  It's the classic case of being lead on only to amount to nothing.  Sure some guys are crap with communication if they're not physically with you.  Some aren't "phone" guys.  But this is just enough to keep you hooked without actually delivering anything.  How is a girl meant to know when it's time to cut and run?  Every time she gets the point where she thinks, "ok that's it, I'm over this crap," ....*bing* here comes a text from him.  And she's reeled back in again.  She ate up another breadcrumb.

You tell 'em Michael!

Now you might think I've just had a bad run of it.  Maybe I've only been out with douchey guys.  There can't be many out there that are that bad.  Well let me tell you, I only wish that were the case.  I've known many women who've had both of these bullshit and childish games played on them.  Why is acceptable behavior?  Why do guys insist on reverting back to high school boys who don't have the balls to tell you they don't want to see you anymore?  Yes it sucks to have to crush someone with that kind of bad news.  It hurts for the recipient and some times for the person doing it, but in the end its the right thing to do.  Everyone deserves to not have games played with them particularly when it comes to the heart.  Why can't these men grow a pair and act like actual men?

I even called a guy out for doing it, blowing me off at random without a word.  He eventually admitted he was being a coward.  I pointed out to him that we're not longer in high school and that I warranted more respect than that.  Being that he's in his 40's, he's also plenty old enough to know better.

How are we women meant to deal with this kind of behavior?  How do we defend against it?  Is there an actual way?  I'm open to any an all suggestions anyone has.  I've gone so far as to call a few guys out on it when they ghosted me.  Even reminded them that we're no longer in high school and they should respect me enough to at least give me the courtesy of telling me what's up.  A girl can take only so much.

If only it were that simple

This chick sums it up pretty well