Casper the Unfriendly Ghost

Apparently in this day and age, many adult men have reverted back to school age behavior when it comes to dating.  I'm not talking about pass a note where you have to check yes or no, or even going so far back as to push you on the playground and runaway when they're interested in you.  I'm talking about not being man enough to handle how to properly end a relationship even in the early stages in a proper manner.  Instead they act like high schools boys and play games with your emotions.




The one I've gotten probably the most these days is "ghosting."  This is when the guy takes the very mature route and let's you know they're not longer interested in a relationship with you of any kind by simply disavowing your very existence.  It can come without warning too.  Things can be going along just fine, when all of a sudden you're waiting for days to get a response to your text.  You send another.  Try Facebook messenger.  Call and get voicemail.  In return you get ...... crickets.  Nothing.  Zilch.  The man has become a ghost.  You have been ghosted.

Apparently he thinks you'd like to just go through the agony of figuring it out on your own -however long it takes you to put together- that he doesn't want to see you anymore and won't ever talk to you again.
 

 

The other fun game some will play is the fine art of "breadcrumbing".  This is when the guy will keep talking to you however there will be longs gaps in between conversations.  He is giving you just enough attention to make you think he's still interested while making no further commitment.  It's the classic case of being lead on only to amount to nothing.  Sure some guys are crap with communication if they're not physically with you.  Some aren't "phone" guys.  But this is just enough to keep you hooked without actually delivering anything.  How is a girl meant to know when it's time to cut and run?  Every time she gets the point where she thinks, "ok that's it, I'm over this crap," ....*bing* here comes a text from him.  And she's reeled back in again.  She ate up another breadcrumb.

You tell 'em Michael!

Now you might think I've just had a bad run of it.  Maybe I've only been out with douchey guys.  There can't be many out there that are that bad.  Well let me tell you, I only wish that were the case.  I've known many women who've had both of these bullshit and childish games played on them.  Why is acceptable behavior?  Why do guys insist on reverting back to high school boys who don't have the balls to tell you they don't want to see you anymore?  Yes it sucks to have to crush someone with that kind of bad news.  It hurts for the recipient and some times for the person doing it, but in the end its the right thing to do.  Everyone deserves to not have games played with them particularly when it comes to the heart.  Why can't these men grow a pair and act like actual men?

I even called a guy out for doing it, blowing me off at random without a word.  He eventually admitted he was being a coward.  I pointed out to him that we're not longer in high school and that I warranted more respect than that.  Being that he's in his 40's, he's also plenty old enough to know better.

How are we women meant to deal with this kind of behavior?  How do we defend against it?  Is there an actual way?  I'm open to any an all suggestions anyone has.  I've gone so far as to call a few guys out on it when they ghosted me.  Even reminded them that we're no longer in high school and they should respect me enough to at least give me the courtesy of telling me what's up.  A girl can take only so much.

If only it were that simple

This chick sums it up pretty well